Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy in Los Altos, CA
Whether you're trying to reconnect, co-parent effectively, or decide what the future looks like for your relationship, I bring a structured, practical approach to help you understand patterns, reduce conflict, and move forward.
What couples therapy addresses here
Couples come in for many reasons — not just crisis. The common thread is usually a feeling that things are stuck: conversations that go nowhere, distance that keeps growing, or recurring arguments that resolve nothing. My work focuses on making those dynamics visible and understandable, so you can do something different with them.
Emotional disconnection
Roommate dynamic, loss of closeness, feeling unseen or unheard by a partner you once felt fully connected to.
Recurring conflict
The same arguments cycling on repeat — different trigger, same pattern. Understanding what's really happening underneath.
Post-affair repair
Navigating the aftermath of infidelity — whether that means rebuilding trust or making a thoughtful decision about the relationship's future.
Intimacy and closeness
Sexual disconnection, growing emotional distance, or a relationship that feels functional but no longer intimate.
Communication breakdown
Conversations that escalate quickly, shut down, or consistently fail to reach each other — even when both people are trying.
Life transitions and co-parenting
New parenthood, separation, blended families, or major life changes straining the partnership.
What to expect in sessions
My style is active. I don't sit quietly while you talk past each other. I intervene, point out what I'm noticing, and offer frameworks that help you understand what's happening in real time.
We identify the underlying pattern — usually something rooted in attachment style, past experience, or a skill gap — and work with that directly. Sessions often include psychoeducation, practical communication tools, and structured exercises to practice between meetings.
Most couples start weekly. The structure, pace, and goals evolve as you make progress.
Who this works best for
- Couples who want to understand what's happening — not just feel better temporarily
- Partners willing to look at their own contributions to the dynamic, not just point at each other
- High-functioning couples who've exhausted their own attempts and want an outside lens
- LGBTQ+ couples navigating relationship-specific pressures and dynamics
- Couples in crisis or post-affair who need immediate, structured support